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Saturday, September 3, 2011

Why Most Adoptees Are Not Religious

Closed adoptees all suffer the same thing...the lack of not knowing who they are or knowing another genetic relative. This causes similar thoughts that they are not from this earth. That they are somehow alien-hybrids. It causes great trauma and is a profoundly painful experience to not look like anyone you know.

Genealogical bewilderment is confusion and uncertainty regarding genealogical continuity, tied to the lack of knowledge about one’s ancestors. Accordingly, the lack of ‘‘biological mutuality’’ among adoptive family members, such as shared biologically based characteristics regarding appearance, intellectual skills, personality traits, and so forth, impedes the adoptee’s ability to identify with adoptive parents. Moreover, the lack of information about one’s biological background is likely to create a ‘‘hereditary ghost’’ which may contribute to a confused, unstable, and distorted sense of self.  Self development does not have closure in adolescence, especially among adoptees, but continues to evolve over the lifespan through reconciliation and integration of many complex perceptions, cognitive systems, and self-object representations. Adoption loss comes in "waves" and the full magnitude does not hit until adulthood.

The overwhelming majority of adoptees are atheist, agnostic or deistey and this is greatly different from the average American population of 24%. (it is been pointed out that people who identify as Catholic, Baptist ect may not be active in the religion or belive all of its teachings) One reason is the bad adoption practices of the middle 20th century by religious agencies. Religion itself pressured unwed women into surrendering their children. Having to rethink everything you were taught may contribute.

Adoptees have been removed from one possible timeline and placed into another. Most adoptees have a lifelong view into a parallel universe in which they weren't surrendered. It is like existing in two different timelines. Two different families. One theory  sometimes called the sixth sense, is that there are two sub consciousnesses. This theory conjectures that two realities exist – a physical one and a second one. The theory claims that a sixth sense can occur when there is integration between both realities. Adoptees studied view the passage of time differently and are able to peel back the layers of what is real and what is not.

Studies differ as to the actual existence of this adoptee sixth sense. Daryl Bem, an emeritus social psychology professor at Cornell University, did nine experiments with over 1000 participants. Bem had a computer program hide images either on the right or the left side of the screen. When erotic images were shown, participants got it right 53% of the time. The researcher could not explain why extrasensory perception tended to work more with erotic images than other kinds of images. One theory is that somehow humans evolved in an attempt to survive and reproduce an ability to sense things out of the three dimensions in which we exist. Primal reasons for this are encoded deep within our DNA. Scientists conclude that time may not flow evenly in one direction. We are just scratching the surface of how the brain works.

 Knowledge of and definite relationship to his genealogy is necessary for a child to build up his complete body image and world picture. It is an inalienable and entitled right of every person. There is an urge, a call, in everybody to follow and fulfill the tradition of his family, race, nation, and the religious community into which he was born. The loss of this tradition is a deprivation of self.

Stephen Hawking compared religion and science in 2010, saying: "There is a fundamental difference between religion, which is based on authority [imposed dogma, faith], [as opposed to] science, which is based on observation and reason. Science will win because it works."
Whatever you believe is fine. Be sure to question everything and don't believe what you want to believe. Look only at the facts.

1 comment:

  1. I was privileged to read your post, I still feel like an alien hybrid but at least I know I'm not alone. I had a search angel try to help me find my birth mother but when she got a call from someone claiming to be police officer she stopped. He told her that if she continued to search she would be sorry amongst other threats. I don't blame her, after experiencing police brutality as a teen I too am leery of continuing my search. Sometimes our rights are restricted by violent people whom we cannot identify yet seem to know us. Thank you for your thoughts and take care. Bob.